A few months back, I came across a post from Goop offering sample schedules of high-powered, highly successful, working mothers, a day in the life, if you will.
It kind of set me off, honestly. Made me feel like a slouch. During the school year, I’m just trying to figure out how to workout/get to the grocery store/maybe write a blog post/figure out the meaning of life/be on time for nursery school pick-up. Though I admire their accomplishments, I think maybe these aren’t “my women”, you know?
So maybe I will never be the woman buying all birthday gifts in advance for the year, wrapped, filed, ready to go. And maybe my evening plans won’t include meeting up with Stella McCartney for a little “girlfriend time” after the kids go to bed. Or fittings with a stylist. I did make a mental note, however, that the equation seems to be this: extremely organized+ structured days=highly productive. Good childcare figures in heavily.
The post was like candy, kind of enjoyable but in the end kind of made me feel bad. I couldn’t resist it, though, as I am always wondering how the heck everyone else is doing this, whether they are working, working part-time, not working. Don’t you really want to peek into other women’s days, to see what they’re doing and how they’re doing it? Is that just me?
From my small cross-section of friends, two things have become clear: one, everyone else is just trying to figure this out, too, and two, no arrangement is perfect. Oh, and that it changes over time. Just when you’ve found an arrangement that is working, a babysitter moves on/your career plans change/your now older children need you in different ways/summer comes, et cetera. There is no such thing as “having it all”. We are constantly making decisions about what is most important and what can go (at least for now).
I was so pleased when I came across the “My balance” series over at Cup of Jo. If you haven’t met Jo, you should pay her a visit. She has a lovely design-y blog. The series asks questions about work/life/parenting balance of many well-loved faces in the blog world. I’m kind of remedial as far as reading other blogs, but I was pleased to see that I was familiar with most of the women and admire the work they are doing.
If you, too, are fascinated with how women are making creative, productive work/family lives, check it out.
This one scared me a little (no offense, Jenny. But I need way more sleep than you).
But this and this made me feel like we’re all in this together.
P.S. In case you’re curious about MY balance, I started writing this while everyone was still asleep, but am finishing up having plied one child with my iPhone in the next room, soon after begging another child to give his littlest brother a bowl of cereal. Or anything. Please. Just five more minutes. . . .